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Writer's pictureYours Truly

III. This is the Definition of Beauty (This is the Definition of Pain)

volume iii.


starve your darlings


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⚠Trigger Warning; the following poem contains subject matter pertaining to eating disorders ⚠

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Been counting

calories like sunflower petals:


i love me /

i love me not /

i love me /

i love me not/

i love me /


i love me not.


I bite my tongue,

survive on the taste

of my own blood

a l o n e.


But

the mere thought of the

Potato Chips

Brownie Bites

Cheese wiz

in the kitchen

sends the porcelain screamin'


Self destruct in

3..

2...

Purge...


Estranged dollops of

regurgitated Big Mac

blaze their way

up my esophagus

and down my chin

in syrupy filaments of vomit.


the vulgar

call it the Two Finger Diet.


Mental Health Professionals

call it Bulimia.


But I don't have an

eating disorder;

my eating is just disordered

a counsellor once told me.


See, my behaviour

has never been acute enough

for any formal diagnosis.


I have only ever dabbled.


Society's got to pick and choose,

decide who's worth the trouble

and who isn't


(and dabblers don't make the cut.)


Empty stomachs have

become the new

f̶a̶d̶

epidemic.


Regardless,

perception's been infected

mind, body

subjected

to the suspected

ugliness of my being.


The ugliest part,

I think,

is my chin.


Double stuffed

like an oreo.


They say

the larger someone is

all the more of them

to love.


But right now,

I wish there was less

of me to hate.


And this hatred has made itself

relevant

in every epoch of my life.


A montage of memory

capers across weeping multitudes

of self-deprecation,

tangle themselves

amongst my arteries,

impenetrable as

Quality Street Toffee.


Every heartbeat

a repetition of

pain

pain

pain--


the means through which

beauty

is realized.

 

Starve away your ugliness.


{Words of Wisdom From Ana}

 

1. A handful of crackers

2. Chocolate milk

3. Poetry


{The only things I have eaten today}

 

I can't be more than

eight years old

when I weigh myself

for the first time

at a relative's house.


Her voice—

crowned in posh condescension—

cracks against my self-esteem

like lightning against a willow.


"Suck in that tummy,

miss jade.”


(and the bough

my childhood rests upon

shatters.)

 

In junior high gym class,

we would sort ourselves into pairs,

each partner comically straight-backed

against the height chart taped onto the wall

while the other determined

the measurement.


Next,

we were to weigh ourselves.


But this, we did alone,

double-checking to

ensure no one else was within

a readable distance of the scale.


The lbs

spin in front

of my apprehensive gaze

like the numbers

on a slot machine.


Beauty is a gamble,

you know.


And these scales--

they're rigged, you know.


Because very rarely

do you like what you see;

very rarely

do you hit the jackpot.


Especially in gym class.


After we'd measured our heights

and weighted ourselves,

we were told to

individually calculate our

BMI's

(Body Mass Indexes).


Over three years,

my results were

always the same:


HRNI


(High-Risk Needs Improvement).


Of course--

of course--

this was something

we were marked on.


So if you weren't happy

with the mark you received,

you had two options:


change your height

or change your weight.


We were graded on

our bodies.


Our fucking bodies.


Despite the fact

that the school preached to us

the importance of maintaining

a healthy body image,

despite the fact that,

in our pre-teen glory,

all we cared about

was the way we looked,


How cruelly ironic.


Since the seventh grade,

I had consistently

maintained an A average

in the majority of my classes.


Perhaps,

in some way,

my intentions were to

aim for sublime, academic achievement

so the numbers on my report card

would compensate for

the numbers that loomed

upon the analog screen of the scale.


Now,

I realize that

it made no difference--

no amount of studying

will make you thin.

 

I have always had an

incurable obsession with numbers.


Grades must always exceed 89%.


Instagram posts must always exceed 99 likes.


But I lowball the value on the scale--

weight must not exceed ______

 

Pardon the game of fill-in-the-blanks.


But did you really think I'd let you figure it out?

 

I am cast as an Amazonian

in my highschool’s production

Of Peter Pan.


When the costumes arrive,

I try on a corset.


Even without a bra on

stomach sucked in until it hurts

my friend desperately coercing

the leather and lace into submission,


it still does not fit.

 

One day,

I go shopping

during my break

at work.


In the change room,

I try on two dresses,

both plaid palettes

of lilac and green.


I always try the

bigger size on first.


See,

if you try on the

bigger size first,

you'll never realize

what you’re missing—

or, more precisely,

the extra pounds you wish

you could miss.


But if you try on the

smaller size first

and it’s too tight--

and it is always too tight,

the teeth of the zipper

gnawing at my spine

like a chicken bone

that's been stripped of its meat--

it is terribly demeaning

to resort to the larger size.


It is demeaning to

always feel less than

simply because you have

too much of.

 

The things I wish

I could wear

but can’t because

none of them fit anymore:


- Blue jeans with embroidered roses on the pant leg

- Pastel, denim shorts

- A Nightmare Before Christmas Sweater dress from Disneyland

- The leather waist cincher whose purpose is to conceal


*Beauty

 

They say

staring at your

naked

reflection in the mirror

promotes bodily love.


I try it.


Am flattered

by the way

nudity compliments

my figure.


No stubborn zippers

refusing to grind,

no fabric that adheres

to my stomach in an unflatteringly,

no muffin tops that leave

noticeable trails of crumbs

wherever I may go,

even after my most tedious

attempts to cloak my form

in baggy sweatshirts

and pants with added elasticity.


no fat.


no ugly.


Maybe even something close to

beautiful.

 

I can’t tell if I just

naturally have big tits

or if my tits are big because

I’m overweight.


Regardless,

I wear deep-cut dresses to school

paired with neon pushup bras

whose vibrantly coloured straps

radiate through the fabric

as if daring them to stare.


This is the only

part of my body

whose largeness

is acceptable

in the eyes of man.

 

You can starve yourself

as much as you want, darling–

he still won’t love you.

 

January 1st, 2019.


I wake up that morning,

determined to turn

over a new leaf

(I have been wilting

for far too long).


My family and I

visit my grandma's

for breakfast.


I walk the 15 minutes

from my house to hers

(and then back again)

as part of my

daily physical activity intake.


Sitting at the dining room table,

my tastebuds undulate

at the sight of the bacon

sizzled to crisp perfection

and lathered in grease.


I am asked if I would like some.


I promptly refuse.


Instead, I have two eggs.


Did you know an egg

contains approximately

70 calories?


Two--

140 calories.


I eat them with hot sauce.


Did you know hot sauce

has zero calories?


It's a cheat

(but not really

a cheat)--

a paroxysm of flavour

and for zero calories?


Fuck yeah.


This works in favour

of my New Years Resolution:

lose weight,

to be accomplished through

a-thousand-calorie-a-day-diet

and a vigorous workout routine.


The first few days

are a success.


But then--


Miss Vickie's Salt and Vinegar Miss Vickie's Sweet Chilli and Sour Cream Pistachio Oreos Little Debbie Cosmic Brownies Honey Mustard Pretzels Caramilk Chubby Soda Popcorn with Dill Pickle Seasoning M & M's on the side Boursin on Melba Toast Cream Cheese on Melba Toast Butter on Regular Toast Doritos Pringles Kraft Dinner--


But then

I slip.


But then

I devour.

 

Perhaps

if I brush my teeth

right after,

exorcizing the flavour of

binge

from my tongue,

it will be as though

I never ate anything

in the first place.

 

There is no need to fret,

my precious glutton;

let me show you a little trick of mine.


-Mia

 

“There is something you must remember

my dear Mia,”

said Ana.


“While you might have your

own way of exerting power over her–

your own way of slipping

your fingers down her throat–

you will always be my bitch.


You would not exist

if it weren’t for me.”

 

“Eat!”

screamed her stomach.


“You mustn’t,”

declared her Insecurity.

 

I wince

as the pangs of hunger

blaze in my belly.


But–no.


Perhaps I am not so hungry,

after all.


Perhaps I am just bored.


Yes, I am just bored.


I am not hungry--

I am just bored.


I am not hungry--

I am just bored.


I am not hungry--

I am just bored.


I am not hungry…


Right?

 

Each day

I wake up with

the intention

of not eating,

and each day


I fail.

 

When I tell my friends

“I feel so fat,”



They say things like

“That doesn’t make you unattractive, though.”


and


“You don’t have to be skinny to be beautiful.”


I wait for them to tell me

that I’m wrong.


It is their agreeability

breaks my heart.

 

Sally shares a Pizza with her friend

and cuts it up into eighths.


If Sally’s friend eats 1/2

of the Pizza and

Sally eats the rest,

how many slices

of Pizza does Sally eat?


{Trick question; Sally is not hungry}

 

It's the worst at night

when I try to sleep.


When I can't sleep

because my waist keeps

escaping its confines.


Sometimes my fingers

accidentally graze

the protruding flesh,

and I wrench them away abruptly

as if they've made contact

with something infernal.


I pull up my Spanx

in an attempt to

cinch the excess flab.


A prayer dashes across

my gluttonous tongue.


To the god I know does not exist:


please, take away this body.

 

If only I were as thin

as the paper

you hold between

your fingertips.


As light as poetry--

1655 words to a page,

yet so ethereally weightless.


I

wish

I

was

a

poem.

 

Image Source:

Ribs line art gif (n.d.). [image] Available at: https://www.pinterest.ca/pin/574349758715315035/?lp=true[Accessed 26 Feb 2020].

 
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